7 IMPORTANT WAYS ON HOW TO BE AN EFFECTIVE PARENT

7 IMPORTANT WAYS ON HOW TO BE AN EFFECTIVE PARENT

BY: EVELYN NECOSIA NAROLLO

LAST UPDATE: MARCH 23, 2021

(7 mins read)

Though I don't belong to this chapter of my life yet. This topic should be focused more because as we are born into this world, our parents are the first person who teaches us the basic importance of respect, the first people who hone us to what we become in the future, they are the ones who teach how to love and loves us in the very beginning. The way our parents treat us when we’re a child can affect our mental being and who we are when we become an adult.

 So how do we become good and effective parents?

There are things that we should hone in ourselves and be considered on how to become a good parent ourselves. 

I will mention below the list of important things to be considered on how we can practice and hone ourselves to become a good parent and implies these things for us to build a harmonious ground for our children and in the next generation to come.

 1. FOCUS ON DEVELOPING YOURSELF FIRST

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Ever gone to war without being prepared? Parenting is also like that. To be a better parent, you need to develop and focus on yourself first. Knowing yourself as a person and ask yourself, am I fit to be called a parent? Or a good parent? We have our unique characteristics, should we consider our attitude in raising a child? Yes, you might have a not-so-good childhood growing up but that doesn’t mean you have to do or practice what you are familiar with when you were a child and bring that in building your own family in the future. It always starts with yourself. It’s true they say; a parent is a reflection of who we are as a person.

 2. BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL

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A good parent practiced good parenting to their children, being a good role model that they will look up to doesn’t mean you have to be strict in the way possible so that your child will listen to you. Instead, be a good example to them, show empathy towards people, show kindness to elderly people, show gratitude in every little blessing that you will receive. Children will mirror what they see and will also do the same thing. So, practice being kinder to people, being generous and loving. Your child will absolutely be as a good person as you are, nobody is perfect. We know that, but we should control the things that we need to do for the sake of our children. Quarreling with your husband/wife must be private. Don’t let them see the action of you having a conflict in their innocent eyes.

3. BE THE NUMBER ROCK OR SUPPORTER

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A good parent embodies supportiveness in their child, they make their children feel that they are always there for them. Start supporting them at a very young age and whatever they do, so you can make sure that they will not be forsaken and get on the right path. Children who do have a supportive parent are those who enough confident enough to step into the world because their parents are behind their back. Be your children’s number one support system.

4. DISCIPLINE IN THE RIGHT WAY

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There are some children who have tantrums growing up and that leads to being off when they reach a certain age of maturity. It is because the parent did not discipline them at an early age. Disciplining in the most balanced way is what they all need growing up. They will be aware and know that what they do is wrong and their children growing up will open up to you and kinder to those who will be with them.

5. CREATE A QUALITY TIME TOGETHER

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Never ever underestimate the power of togetherness. This way, it will not just make your bond as a parent-child relationship closer also this will make you as a parent know your children more. Growing up with a family that lacks quality time leads to an unfriendly approach when they will reach a certain level of age: adolescence. 

6. KNOW THE BEST WAY TO PRAISE

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Children who are well praised by their parents at home have this positivity in them as a person. They value people's insight and can handle criticism well as well because they are well praised at home. They know their worth and know how to act the right and mannerly way. Whenever your child achieves even a small victory, do not forget to praise them.

7.  ALWAYS MAKE THEM FEEL LOVE (TELL THEM ''I LOVE YOU'')

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Some people are not that expressive in words rather they show it in their actions. But did you know that as a parent, children must hear this word not because they want to hear it but this word is the most powerful word and it can make an impact as your children grow? If your child hears this word and feels the love that you gave, the child will also grow as a loving and caring person as he/she should be when she is ready for the world.

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I hope this helps. Somehow, we people know about these but sometimes we forgot how to apply them in our daily lives.

I am writing this article in my blog because for us people, in general, to value self-awareness and to make an impact on humanity with my simple insights.

These are all my reflections and information that I gathered on my daily basis based on the people I am with and those I see as a good parent example.

More of this topic to come.

Love Muchly,

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