THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

UNDERSTANDING THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES

Published by: Evelyn Narollo 

In my 28 years of existence, I can say, I have observed well enough the people around me well and I have all the patience in knowing each and everyone’s characteristics. This is my way of understanding each one of us living on this planet. Since we are dealing with people most of our time.

Per the topic itself. Understanding our unique love language will give impact and importance on the way we handle our relationship towards people around us, not just for the romantic union but for the people we are dealing with every day in our lives. Knowing their nature and the way they come up with their love language will surely be able to guide you and make you understand more on how you could handle each uniqueness of the person’s love languages.

What is Love Language?

According to Wikipedia: By the book of Gary Chapman. There are 5 Major Love languages. 

According to this author the five ways to express and experience love called "love languages" are:

· words of affirmation,

·  quality time

· receiving gifts,

· acts of service,

· physical touch.

 

We are unique beings but we are categorized depends on what we crave for people around us and what we also give them in return. If you master and know these languages in people around you, you will notice that you will be more aware and you will do this and not do a certain thing for them to like you. 

 In my Blog; I do always want you to also understand people around you for us to have a harmonious life.

For the disclaimer, all of the words I wrote are solely in my understanding. If you find it not the one you think it is, feel free to correct it. I am happy to hear feedback from you. And mostly, all of these things I mentioned are what is on my mind and it’s a free flow. I just write whatever I understand and my insights because I do love to observe the happenings in my surroundings.

 

Let us begin. 

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WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

If someone has the word of affirmation as their primary love language, they will feel most loved if their partner or people around them, show and let them know how much you care for them. They appreciate the positive feedbacks that you notice on them, they value your compliments on them. From your shoes is nice, your dress looks good, and everything you notice about them that based on their ego. In this particular person, who has this love language, you should avoid all of the negative connotations. They do not like to be judged talked negatively towards people is primarily a big no, and they are one of those people who does love to voice out good things coming from their heart. 

One of the sincerest people have this love language. Since this is their primary love language, they also show this to people. So, if you notice that someone is complimenting you without any reason or make you feel beautiful, you should reciprocate that to this kind of person who has the primary love language as “Words of Affirmation” Just text them, “Hey Gorgeous.” Will make their entire day.

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QUALITY TIME

            

Those people whose primary love language is quality time values your presence. It is understood that these people want you to be part of their lives especially if there is a major life event that they need you to attend to with them. Quality time for them means cuddling, sitting next to each other even without talking is fine with them, as long as you two are together. They can just sit and do nothing but knowing that you around make them feel the love already. This kind of people that fall on this love language, doesn’t show much affection emotionally rather they will show you that they will also be there for you whenever you want to tag them alone. These people will feel exhausted if there’s so much talking. I  think that the people who do love Quality time are picky when it comes to choosing a lifelong partner.

 If someone has the words of affirmation love language and you betray her using powerful words they may end resent and not forgive you, but those people who have the quality time as their love language can move on and you will think they do not have feelings. They just don’t think it personally because they value action rather than words. Just show up to their door, and they will fall for you. Just be there when they are sick, and just be with them. It will make them like or love you.

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RECEIVING GIFTS

 

If you have this primary love language, I want you to know that you are not materialistic. Because this is what I understand before, but no. This is my side story because my second love language is receiving gifts as well. Yes, we have primary, secondary, and so on. If you happen to dig deep with regards to this kind of topic just let me know. Alright, so why am I saying that those people who have the primary love language is receiving gifts are kind of materialistic people, what I mean about this is the other way around. Those people who do have this as their primary love language loves being pampered by things. What I mean about things is not about grandeur things in life. 

 These people appreciate everything you will give them. It might sound a little like a child because they have a child-like soul in them, a child if they want something, they will cry if they cannot have what they want right? I notice about them, they will be happier even if you hand them your used clothes, your things that also have a sentimental value to you. If you know someone who has this primary love language, please do not take this the wrong way. They are not materialistic. They are just someone who appreciates you more if you put your effort into her, words and quality time might not give him or her that impact. If you are traveling, just give them a souvenir or anything that you made them feel like you remember them when you buy the item and they will remember you for a lifetime. 

These particular people since their love language are receiving gifts will notice because they will also give you gifts out of nowhere. Even if there is no occasion. Appreciate that moment, and let them know that you are grateful because for them giving you things is what makes them happy. It is the thought that counts to them if they hand you something.

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ACTS OF SERVICE

           

I have taken the test myself and you can too, by clicking this link. I can say, that this is my primary love language. What does this mean if we have this as the primary love language? They tend to overlook intimacy as a chore, as a task. It doesn’t sound romantic, but this is the dynamic that these people who fall under this act of service love language. 

For them, being with them if they have a daunting task that cannot make on their own and if you are there helping them, they will appreciate that. Errands are their main routine in life, if they happen to include you in their lives by just coming with them whenever they fancy, they will be happy for that. Let them feel the need of being not alone if they need you the most. 

These people are often, independent people. They do not see quality time as romantic as it may sound, for them it is just normal. If you like them, quality time is not enough for them. They will ask you extra for that. Just be gentle on these people, they might be simple, but all they want is to just have your back whenever they needed someone. People who fall into this category tend to be more like a mother to you, you will notice them acting concerned towards your overall being and scold you like your mom. If they are needed, if their service is needed, they will do it without hesitation. 

Did you know someone who asks you to go out with them, to do grocery or just run for an errand? Do they need your service? These people visualized romantic acts as an act of service. Do things they ask you to do, even the smallest favor, and you will thank me later. Avoid letting them down if they ask you something. They will have anxiety and will take you out in their lives.

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PHYSICAL TOUCH

This is the least love language that I acquire. I mean, there is a certain type of people who don’t like physical touch much. But in the opposite for this, as we are talking about their love language. Those people who do have this as their primary language loves to feel the touch from their loved ones.

They are some of the sweetest people you will encounter in your life. They give you the best hugs. They are vocal and upfront people who voice out what are their feelings. An open person as I say. They feel most loved if they also reciprocated the same, simple touch makes them feel they are being well taken care of. They are not flirt, they are just like that. 

They give importance to cuddles, hugs and physical touch is their major way of telling the other person I like you or I appreciate you. But with regards to the person around them, you notice them they like to hug you, give you a handshake. Give them your gentleness love touch to this kind of people, they crave for it. And so, this is also they give a lot to people around them.

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We have to understand someone else’s stand and ground, I mean their love language because that is what makes them who they are and you cannot change that in them, rather make some compromise and live an understanding happy life.

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Your Relationship Guide,

BELLE