10 SAD TRUTH ABOUT LOVE THAT NO ONE HAS EVER TOLD US
10 SAD TRUTH ABOUT LOVE THAT NO ONE HAS EVER TOLD US
BY: EVELYN NAROLLO
We get to see love as an irrevocably, astonishing, and surreal feeling especially when the love we gave is reciprocated. We just think about love and all the worries in the world slowly begin to fade away. Love is what we live for, from our parents' love, siblings' love, and down to the person who is not associated in the family tree but still loves us.
Is there anything more important than love? Maybe food. But idealistically love is what we crave, some might say, I don't need someone to complete me because we have our parents. Parents' love is more than enough. However, we often see love outside, crave for it from the opposite sex but we all for the fact know that in loving someone we should learn to love ourselves first in order for us to give the love that is not asked but a love that is abundant.
This leads to my topic that I am going to share with you today. If love made us feel alive, feel happy, also this can make us crazy, sad, and sometimes make us feel that we do not deserve to be love. Because the presence of love makes the world go fonder, and so the absence of it makes the world go in a different direction.
If only someone educates me before that love hurts more than makes someone happy. I could have spared my heart alone intact just by myself. But it is not that easy, along the way someone show and cares love for us even if we didn't see it coming. We get to feel the happiness that love brings. Slowly, if you are invested, you don't have any idea that love eats you alive and there is no point in turning back.
In this article, I
will share with you the sad truth about love that no one has ever told us.
Number 1. THE MAGIC OF LOVE WILL FADE – NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TAKE CARE OF IT
Love prevails when you don't put much effort into it. I know you will contradict me, I am sure. You will start to say, you should be selfless in love. But no, many of the successful relationships I saw, is not making their relationship a big deal. Because love should be natural, it should not be stressful nor hard, and forced. As soon as you exert a lot of effort in the relationship, that is when the time that love will slowly be gone. This is a hard truth. So, in loving someone, you should just take it easy and lightly. For it to blossom and to keep the magic of love alive.
Number 2. THE ONE WHOM YOU THINK WILL COMPLETE YOU – WILL BREAK YOU INTO PIECES
Oftentimes than not, when we are in the union of loving someone, all we think about is the future with the person we shared our love, we shared our everything in between in life. We will never think of anything that could go wrong. It is because we are thinking that love should make us whole, this should not be the case, love should make us see that we are already whole even if someone is not filling that in us, it should be that love will give you a whole new life not to add and to make you whole. Think of it as you are already whole and someone came, they should not charge you for who you are. That is why it is a harsh truth that we think of someone that will make us complete, and at the end of the day, everyone is not bound to be in your life. Some just stay but not forever, and I know it hurts, I know it breaks your heart. But those who will stay in your life will stay no matter how hard it is to be with you.
Number 3. THE MORE YOU CARE ABOUT SOMEONE – THE LESS THEY CARE ABOUT YOU
It is true they say if you show a lot of care for someone and you will not do the same thing towards you. They will start to care less about you. Why would they do that? When you are the one who is always doing the effort. Every time we seem to care about someone we start to go miles for them, we even offer favors they didn't ask us to do so. They will care nothing about how you show them some love because for them, you are doing it for love and even if they will not reciprocate it towards you, you will continue to care because caring for someone we love is what we can always give to. The truth is, people, take advantage of those people who show love and care to them. And even if you do not like what you hear, this is a harsh truth that we need to be aware of. What we can do, is to assess and try not to put effort much if the other person is not putting effort into the relationship too.
Number 4. THE LESS YOU CARE – THE MORE THEY EXERT EFFORT TOWARDS YOU
How true is this in a healthy relationship? It is not applied to everyone but I have seen that most of the one who puts a lot of effort in the relationship has the less power in the relationship dynamic. Just like if you don't care much if you don't put in an effort much the other person will be the one to always reach out and exert the effort that you didn't put in.
Number 5. YOU WILL KNOW THE TRUE NATURE OF A PERSON – AND YOU CAN'T CHANGE THAT IN THEM
We like people at first because of what we see in them not because of what they truly are. There is a huge difference knowing that we often just like the idea of liking or loving someone just because of what they show to us and not what they are capable of doing to you. We know someone's attitude at first but sometimes we are just blind and give them the chance to prove that they are the person they showed in the very beginning. You will notice that they are like that and you cannot change that in them. Because that is who they are. Change might be inevitable but as one changes, they change for themselves not for others.
Number 6. LOVE IS HARD – IF YOU ARE IN THE WRONG PERSON
There is no love if there are no hardships along the way. We always think of love as we think of our parents not making up one decision because the other one has its decision themselves. Love may be hard, but if it is with the right person, hardship will become worthy, that will become the bond that you two will face. Hardships in a relationship with the wrong person are 20 times more than a struggle, but with the right person it will be easy and you will think that it is only an obstacle that life had shown and thus both of you will be able to surpass.
Number 7. THEY'LL POINT OUT YOUR FLAWS – THEY CAN'T POINT THEIRS
Most of the time, "those who most likely to always point a dirty finger towards others are those who have the dirty finger on their own." People will be blinded by their flaws because it is human nature that we are in denial and self-centered being. And this is a harsh truth when things get messy when everything seems chaotic because the time that the other person points out what is not good in you, you will remember it all over the time and you will no longer see that you also have a good within yourself. Just surround yourself with those who will bring out the best in you, not someone who digs what is not good in yourself.
Number 8. YOU PROBABLY HURT THEM – SO THEY GET REVENGE AND HURT YOU BACK
In short, they only think of themselves. Some people will not forget about things you did to them. Instead of move forward, they will constantly revisit the wrongdoings that you have done and this can lead them to get revenge by not aware that they are doing it.
Number 9. LACK OF OPEN COMMUNICATION IN A RELATIONSHIP – WILL END EVEN HOW MUCH YOU LIKE THE OTHER PERSON
This is very obvious, lack of communication can lead to separation. We all know that, for us to be assured, we always want our person to give us attention. Lack of it is an indication that someone is not taking you seriously, perhaps, you are not the priority.
Number 10. THEY'RE GOING TO LEAVE YOU – EVEN IF THE YOU HAVE THE QUALITIES IN THE WORLD TO BE KEPT
This one is the saddest of all the things I mentioned. Good qualities will not make someone stay. If they will stay they will, but if they cannot see you fit in their life in the future, they will leave you even if you are beautiful, talented, or anything someone could wish for. Because it is not your good qualities that can make them stay. It is them and not you who take the decision. Man or woman, regardless. If they leave you, and you think you have given everything just to keep the relationship, that person is not for you. It might hurt you at first, but trust me, if you are aware that a person is going to leave you will start to careless, and that is the time that the other person will be drawn to you. As I have mentioned, the less you care, the more of them exert an effort towards you.
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