13 REASON WHY THERE ARE DECENT PEOPLE WHO ARE STILL SINGLE
HERE ARE THE 13 REASON WHY THERE ARE STILL MANY DECENT PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO ARE STILL SINGLE
BY: EVELYN NECOSIA NAROLLO
PUBLISHED ON: MARCH 17, 2021
( 9 minutes read )
There are worse things than being alone. But it often takes decades to realize this. And most often when you do, it’s too late. And there’s nothing worse than too late.
– Charles Bukowski
We come across those people who are single and choose to be alone in their lives and I would say, they are one of the bravest human being here on the planet. Being
single is not what we owe to explain to the world.
I get the feeling of being single as seen as weak. Many people view relationships as the best part of life. But have you ever wondered, why there are still decent people out there who are still single?
There are a lot of reasons as to why people often just want to be alone in their lives. And whatever their reason is. I understand that we have our definition of happiness and might be that happiness is only taken if we are alone and not having a relationship right now.
In this article, I
will share with you why there some people choose to stay single.
Reason Number 1.
They have high expectations of their other half.
When looking for a life partner, decent people will see if the other half is a good match for them. There may be many partial matches, but few perfect matches. They possess a perfectionist nature that they also applied it to their future partner.
There are few quality people they can take a fancy to.
The
better the person, the fewer people of the same quality are around them, and
the chances of meeting someone of their caliber and developing a relationship
are significantly lower. They may be thinking that most of the people they will
meet cannot meet the criteria that they set in. They will easily see the red
flag in dating as a sign that they need to back off and so, prefer to stay
single.
They have high expectations of themselves and their future.
They think other things in life are more important than being in a relationship.
A
decent person might be established already but it doesn't mean that entering a
relationship will be good for them. They are still in the process of learning
and they want it to do without having someone in their life. With them, it will
give them satisfaction. They may be obsessed with their career, learning new
skills, and developing new hobbies, while if they are in a relationship, it may
be seen as a waste of time and life.
Reason Number 5.
They will carefully judge the sunk cost of being in a relationship.
They
are an overthinker when it comes to investing in the right partner. They may
not want to take fully charged of being in a relationship if they didn't fully
understand the meaning of it. They will carefully assess the risks and benefits
of a relationship and choose their partner carefully and deliberately, rather
than just getting together with someone else and end up not getting and giving
the right amount of love.
Reason Number 6.
They may already have someone in mind.
This
may seem obvious in all of the reasons why someone wants to stay single. They
may have already idealized someone in their mind and they wait for the right
time. They may be someone they have in their mind but they can never be with,
but they are unwilling to find someone else to replace that person, so they
remain single. They will not stop not until the person in their mind gets
married. They are that kind of person who is devoted to the one that caught
their heart. They are willing to wait and stays single.
Reason Number 7.
The person they like does not like them.
A decent person may like someone better than them, but that person doesn't like
them, and in that person's eyes, they may be an extremely ordinary person. The
one who is not willing to settle for anything else will just wait and stays
single.
Reason Number 8.
They may not know what kind of partner they want.
They
may be good at business, friendships, and relationships, but not at
relationships and love. They also need to keep learning to get out of being
single. They are still in the process of learning their true self and that is
also finding what they want in a partnership.
Reason Number 9.
They may be fully hurt in the past relationship that they take a break from it.
As a decent person enters a relationship, they give all or nothing. They expect it in their partner in return. Hence if the relationship went south, they will think about how could it possibly be. The past relationship either causes them trauma. They prefer to go on some dates, but they won't fully commit not unless they will feel secure and get out of the abandonment feeling.
Reason Number 10.
They may not like the idea of having someone they will share their lives with.
For
them having a relationship is a full task that they need to
govern. They do not want to involve in a relationship because to them
having a relationship will cost them stress and drama.
Reason Number 11.
They may perceive as an intimidated people.
There
are lots of decent women and men who are not just a total package but overall
good-looking people. When you asked them, they will say "I am single, why
is it not normal? It is because their outer appearance makes them seem
unapproachable and potential partners might not be comfortable in talking to
them. No one has even tried because of that outer layer of them.
Reason Number 12.
They may have a lot of people who admire them.
They
are the people who are gifted and who are stunningly beautiful creatures. That
they find themselves having a lot of people who admire them. They just cannot
choose and thus, having a lot of options makes them stay single.
Reason Number 13.
They think that they are old enough that they think they cannot find love anymore.
They have been very busy in their mid-youth and mid 30's, that they missed out on the potential partner that they could have ended with.
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Whichever reason you may fall under, as to why you are still single right at this moment. I want to let you know that I understand each one of us. I want you to be gentle with yourself and open your heart to the possibilities of falling in love.
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Generally, what we know in finding love, is we tend to overlook it as a complicated one. We forgot to see things in a clearer path. We oftentimes think that there are still better for us out there and thus, we continue searching for that piece. The searching is non-stop that you come up to the point that you are already tired and just want to stay single and alone.
Because in real life, finding love or finding the one who matches us will not be as easy as we want it to be. There are times that we will face unexpected obstacles, hardships. For us to be strong.
The reality is that by the time you are good enough, you will have missed the right person and will not be able to find another one. You don't want that to happen, will you?
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Thank you for reading.
Until my next Article. I hope you gain some insight.
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