5 MAJOR DO'S AND DON’TS IN MAKING SOMEONE TO LIKE YOU

WHAT ARE THE 5 MAJOR DO'S AND DON'TS IN MAKING SOMEONE TO LIKE YOU

BY: EVELYN NECOSIA NAROLLO

Last update: March 17, 2021

In today's generation what we think in attracting someone is kind of easy especially if we are a natural charmer if we have a gorgeous face. But if we are talking about longevity, the emotional bond you want to make with that someone you are going to attract in your life.

Growing up, as an introvert, or I must say an ambivert. It is not that easy for me to know if I am attractive already to someone I dated, or did I just do something bad because that person is not checking me anymore? Did I screw up or act the way I shouldn't behave? All of these questions and others always pop into my head.

But one thing I notice, if you are natural and real and you do you, meaning you will just show who you are as a person. Chances are those people who didn't make it up till the very end are not just suitable for you. Do not feel bad about that. Remember it has nothing to do with you, it is always something to do with them. Not because you did something wrong, but because it just didn't mean to be and you two are no match made in heaven.

In my personal experience having someone whom we click is something that we have to put work into.

In this blog content, I am going to tackle the best that I can to tackle how can we achieved a balanced relationship, and with this I am letting you know a major secret. Most of you guys know about this, but even me, sometimes I forgot to apply it to myself.

I am going to share with you, the DO and DON'TS in attracting someone we LIKE. It can be applied generally speaking if we want a harmonious ground in people around us.

We have to talk about the DONT'S FIRST because as a human we all want to hear the good news but if there is bad news we prefer to save the good news in the end.

 

Without further ado here, it is:

 

DON'TS

 

1.      DON'T BE ARROGANT

In my observation, the average of the people living here on Earth doesn't want to be involved with someone who has a big ego boost. Arrogant people are those who only talk themselves. They will brag about what they achieve in life, what they have on the table and so and so forth. Being arrogant, will not make you attractive. Even if you are the most gorgeous human being. So, to speak, never be arrogant if you want to attract someone.

2.    DON'T BE AGGRESSIVE

One of the most hated characteristics is being aggressive. You will come off as desperate and needy. Aggressive for me also means, you are being too pushy and having no patience at all. Avoid this at all costs, because humans want harmony, and being aggressive will not look good on you. Try to be calmer, and friendly and handle the situation with patience and loving ground.

3.    DON'T OVERSHARE YOUR PERSONAL LIFE

As an over-sharer myself, this comes off as a disadvantage in attracting someone in my life. Why? Humans are more inclined into someone who seems to be passive at first, a mysterious vibe I would say. You can talk about yourself but avoid over-sharing it. For example, try to be more precise about what you are saying. Do not share what is not being asked. Let the one know you and make them put the effort in doing that. Give them a chance to earn you and do not share everything in your life.

4.    DON'T MAKE THE OTHER PERSON FEEL LIKE A FOOL

We are a fool in love sometimes, it is inevitable especially if we are madly deeply in love with someone. But the foolishness must not come from you fooling the other person because you want them to feel good. It is a takeaway that you are no longer respecting the other person because you are sugarcoating every word you say.

5.    DON'T BELITTLE SOMEONE

We do not want to be with someone who has a negative trait in them, and one of the traits of a negative person is that they are just someone who always looks down on another people's misfortune. Or all they have in mind is always gossiping and talking about someone's bad news behind their back. Stay out of this lane if you want to attract someone because chances are, they will surely not like you if you give off a negative vibe towards them.

DO'S

1.    BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

The average tendency of the people in the dating stage is that we often do not show what we are as who we are as a person. Because at some point, we also were in the process of knowing the other person and trust is being walled up still. But to be loved by the way you want to be loved. You must be in your real self with the one who wants to attract with, by being with your authentic self, you can also know and filter if the other person likes to be with the same character as you are. If not, then it is time to move on because who you are as a person must be what the other person sees you.

2.    BE KIND

Kindness is a type of behavior marked by acts of generosity, consideration, or concern for others, without expecting praise or reward. Being kind is not wanting to be just kind just for the sake of you want to be the other person to notice you, hence being kind should be natural. Anyhow, kindness is free, you just got to make this more visible in attracting someone in your life.

3.    BE IN LOVE OF WHAT YOU DO

Anything that you want to achieve in life should be a top priority to you. Do not just always lurk and wait for the other person's text because you want to hear from them. Get busy with your life, in building the future you want to achieve. Chances are, they will be attracted to you. Because you have a life outside of the relationship and you just don't wait for things to happen. You act on everything and there is nothing more attractive than being so career and goal-oriented person.

4.    BE SENSITIVE

We, humans, are wired to feel things even at times that we do not want to feel it. Especially if something triggers our emotions. By being sensible with the other persons feeling, you are more understanding and you take the action in dealing with them in times that they needed you the most. Be sensible enough to know how they feel that day, or what are they thinking, feeling about the situation that causes them to be sad. We are just humans who get to be sad sometimes. By evaluating and being there for the person in times that they needed you is very much important.

5.    SPEAK WITH HUMILITY

I do always discuss this in my previous content, speak with all humbleness and kindness. I am not saying you have to change your behavior just to attract someone into your life, but having this characteristic will surely make you a gentle kind-hearted person.

6.    SET A HEALTHY BOUNDARY (BONUS)

This one is the most important aspect if you want to attract someone. Because if we do have feelings already, we forget that we need to have boundaries too with ourselves and within the relationship itself. By setting up a healthy boundary, it will not just make your relationship long last but it will be always a challenge for both of the people involved in the relationship because you are setting each other a healthy boundary.

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Disclaimer:

All of the lists mentioned are best of my knowledge and I speak it with my own experience.

 

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